This is the letter I received. and underneath it my response.
I am a 40 year old woman who was with a great guy for 4 years. We were engaged, and I thought we were happy. He suddenly came to me and told me that he wasn’t sure I am the “right” woman for him and that he needed “time and “space” to decide.
Yes, he has been talking to other girls, but claims they are “just friends.
She says they are “just friends” too, but I don’t think so..
But I have never known him to be a liar so I’m not sure.
I want so bad to be a wife, I am a good housekeeper, I cook, I have a decent job.
I feel like I have a lot to offer to a man. I have 2 beautiful kids who would love to have a step father.
I just don;t understand what happened with my fiance. He never even came to me and told me there was a problem :”(
I have prayed everyday that God will help him find his way home to me.
He is not a believer in God at all (he;s a very stubborn atheist) and I have prayed God would reveal himself to my ex-fiance.
I have prayed that God will mold me into a good wife for someone, but i am still alone. I am so ready to be a wife!
I really want for things to work out with my ex-fiance, because I love him so much, but I know i deserve better than what he did to me by just dumping me with no real explanation.
I honestly don;t know if God will bring him home to me or not, but one way or the other, I am so tired of being alone, I WANT to be a wife to a good man 😦
How come it seems all the good ones are taken already? 😦
God the wisest being anywhere says not to be unevenly yoked. You have been praying for God to help you find a husband. Do you think God would jump over his advice about not being unevenly yoked and put you in a relationship with someone God recommends you don’t marry? God is not double minded.
If you are praying for God to help you then strap yourself in and keep your faith on. God sometimes has to drive us way around the neighborhood before he comes back to where he wants to go. Often as soon as you pray it looks like right away you are going further from your prayer answer. Not a problem if you have faith in God. It is a problem if you have all ready figured out how you want God to answer your prayer.
The word says we shall reap if we “faint” not. You got to keep your faith just like its already happened. If you decide Gods not going to do this or whatever excuse for unanswered prayer then you can kiss it good by.
Faith is the substance of things not seen. When your faith ends there is no “unseen” substance. Actually that’s not true, your faith in it NOT happening is the substance now. And you will reap that. The key to believing God is to know how much he loves you. to Go over and over how much he loves you and why. Get pictures of what hes done, make a list of why, review it everyday till your “root” develops. There is lots of evidence to this fact.
Then it says “we love him because he first loves us.” Now with the “root” that God loves you, you will love him. Then the Bible says “love believes all things”, and love never fails. Now thought love we have a strong confidence and love will endure all the doubts and will not fail.
You believe God for a husband and even if your left arm falls of the next day, keep believing. God may take that guy out of the picture quickly if hes not the one. It wont matter to you either way if your in faith. Your not driving this car. God is.
Does God love you? really really? if he spared not his own son but delivered him up for us all wont he with him freely give us all things. Yes he will, but through faith. Faith works though love.
By the way maybe the good ones are taken as you say, but That means that God didn’t care enough about you to arrange a good husband for you even though hes been around for all of eternity past, knows everyone, and can do anything he wants. Do you really believe that? Your unbelief is showing.
Lets fix that.
I know of a church member who is a grown man with a decent Job. This guy carries a toy light saber on his waist everywhere he goes. He really does. He dresses in Jedi robes sometimes in public or church. He prayed for a wife and right after wards he cleaned out his truck and put in a new seat cover on his old truck for his new wife he knew was coming. He cleaned up his house in expectation. He saved some money up for dates. He believed he had already received. He had faith.
Again, this guy wears a light saber! in public. all the time. what chances would you give him?
He was married to a girl in few short months after that. This girl was very pretty and a christian.
Is there hope for you? Ya there is hope for you. There is hope for even cat ladies and Jedi wanna Be’s if they have faith. If you don’t have faith then forget all about it.
“as your faith is so be it done unto you.”
Love when mixed with the word brings faith. “faith comes by hearing and hearing by the word.”
“speaking the truth in love you might grow up into him.”
“thy word is truth”
“faith works through love”
I just have to say this again, he WEARS a light saber! all THE TIME! God got him hitched. Tell me hes not a miracle worker! This is close to the “red sea miracle” one with me.
(the “Jedi” is a great person by the way and I like him, its just in the worlds eyes someone like that might have had a few problems getting married.) “P
(remember knowing God loves you will grow your faith when mixed with the word, not how much you love God)
Look at some of these. http://www.lionofjudah1.org/Sermonetteshtml/Unevenly%20Yoked%20sermonette%20090603.htm
God may get your guy saved, but you be ready for whatever God brings.